My journey to be a mum started when I was about to turn 38. Until then I never wanted children, I thought my life was complete with my two gorgeous dogs, but children? Nope, not for me. Continue reading “Four Angels”
Hubby and I had been married for about a month when we found out we were pregnant. We were both over the moon. Early on I began to spot and the spotting continued for 9 days. I was reassured by the doctor that everything was fine and it was normal.
I was over the moon when I saw the little pink line confirming I was pregnant with my first child, after having just moved in with my fiancée Adrian. Everything was slotting in nicely and we were both extremely excited at the prospect of starting a family.
I didn’t even know I was pregnant. Objectively speaking, it would have been absolutely awful timing to have had a baby – I was only 21, single, studying and so depressed that getting up in the morning was the hardest thing in the world. I had taken my pill religiously, or so I thought, but for whatever reason had ended up pregnant.
For the first time I got excited. Is this really real, am I really seeing what I’m seeing?
Time goes on…it obviously wasn’t my time. Something happened that was out of my control. People told me don’t worry it’s not just you, it happens to plenty of women.
Losing a baby is tough. Tougher than anyone on the outside can ever really imagine. Not only the physical pain and devastation, but the long lasting psychological impact that keeps raising its head when you least expect it.Continue reading “The Due Date That Doesn’t Arrive”
It’s been a busy month (other than getting hitched!). After 11 weeks of being pregnant we were told we’d had a missed-miscarriage. The same day I was booked in for a ‘sweep out’ op and my life turned upside down. We are a long way from home, (Brits living in Sydney), and holy cow was I unprepared for this new phase of life.Continue reading “Breathing Through the Clutter”
My name is Katherine and I am a mum to 2 beautiful girls. I knew very little about miscarriage at that time; pregnancy was very innocent and whilst I knew about miscarriage, it was something that happened to other people. I didn’t know anyone that had openly spoken about it and in hindsight, I was very naive.Continue reading “My Four Losses”
I have had four miscarriages: two in 2017 (4.5w, 7.5w), one in 2018 (5w) and one in 2019 (8w – trisomy 11). We also have a daughter born in 2015 with no prior losses. We are currently going through IVF in the hope that science makes better embryos than we do.
Continue reading “The Emotional Merry Go Round of Loss & Infertility”
It sounds so cold and clinical – “unknown location”. But that’s what it’s called. Your body is sending all the signals that you are pregnant, but a baby can’t be seen on the screen anywhere.
It’s been a while since I’ve thought about it, until a friend told me she was pregnant. While I’m happy for her, I had a small pang of, ‘I Wish…’. We have two healthy and happy girls so I’m not complaining, it was just a hard road to get to this point.
I had a missed miscarriage this past week. I went to a bulk billed scanning place for my 7 and 8.5 week dating scans. They scanned me externally and said there was no baby and completely freaked me out because I had the gestational sac, yolk sac, no bleeding etc. I asked them for a trans-vaginal scan to confirm and they refused me both times, saying it won’t make a difference.
My husband and I had been trying to conceive for over 2 years and were on our last round of Clomid before having to go to IVF. We were absolutely beyond delighted to fall pregnant. My whole world changed as I already started preparing for the one thing I wanted in life the most.Continue reading “Not Just a Statistic”
I have two boys aged 10 and 18 and I’m engaged to my partner of over 4 years. He does not have children of his own as he is 15 years younger than me, but we agreed early on in our relationship that it was not something we planned to do together. I turned 44 in February so it was a very big surprise to discover in early January of this year (2019) that I was pregnant.Continue reading “My First Miscarriage”
In 2012, my husband and I decided to start trying for a baby after 2 years of marriage. A few months went by and I discovered I was pregnant. We went to an obstetrician (recommended to us by my best friend). He was lovely but said it was too early to tell. There was a sac but nothing inside.
Secondary infertility, it’s a rocky path. You long to be part of the community you once were whilst you were childless, but there is a fine line of where do you fit in. You can relate to all the mum type posts but also carry the pain that only those “without children” endure.
I write this story on my way to Melbourne for a specialist appointment, reflecting on the tough journey so far but hopeful for some answers. To date I have had 3 missed miscarriages and 3 D&C’s – trifecta’s all round! It’s hard to tell which time was the hardest, the 1st or the 3rd!
I was around the age of 18 when I experienced my very first female ‘issue’ after having irregular cycles and painful periods. I was told that I had polycystic ovaries and endometriosis. I was told by medical staff to stay on the pill and that my chances of conceiving naturally were next to nothing. IVF was also most likely in the future for when I was ready to conceive.
I am a very happy (and grateful) mother to a beautiful 10 year old bright, bubbly and vivacious daughter. It has been a long time since I lost my two precious babies, but there is honestly not a day that goes by where I don’t wonder what could have been.
After four years of tears and failure after failure I’d started to give up a little. Then I noticed changes in my body so I called my fertility doctor and he said to take a test and to my surprise, my first ever positive test! It was the news we needed and it made my husband and I so happy I could hardly even sit still… all the negativity and depression had gone away.
My name is Kim. Ever since I can remember I’ve wanted to be a mum. When it came time to make that decision to start trying I had no idea what was before me. I thought it would be simple and my excitement, hope and belief in falling was never in doubt. Everyone else does it right? All my friends had no problems so why should I? How wrong I was.
I went in for a regular ultrasound at 8 weeks to find out the baby was about three weeks smaller than it should have been. The doctor had me follow up in a week and everything looked great – the dates must have just been off. So excitedly, we told our kids, our family – everyone. Everything seemed good.
I found out I was pregnant early May which delighted us to be expanding our family (we already have a 2 and half year old). From around 5-10 weeks I was so ill due to the pregnancy – bedridden, sick, dizzy, unable to look after our daughter, all good signs of a healthy pregnancy so they say.
In November 2015 we welcomed our first daughter into the world. She was a ‘surprise’ pregnancy but welcomed none the less. When she was born we had it all planned out, we wanted an 18 month age gap between our children, so at nine months we would start trying.
I am 31 and myself and my fiancé decided it was time to try and fall pregnant. I had come off the pill this March and heard so many stories of people falling pregnant straight away so I was positive that I would be one of those.
Pregnancy loss is a topic that needs to be discussed. People avoid the topic of miscarriage and still births because it is a touchy subject when in fact we should be doing the opposite. This is a topic that needs to be discussed more among women, teens, and the general population as a whole.
I’d always been a perfectionist and a planner, and having a baby was no different. I knew which cot, which car seat, which brand of breast pump I wanted before we even started trying to conceive!
My husband and I felt very lucky. We managed to fall pregnant about 3 months after we started trying and were ecstatic. I was nervous in the first weeks but scans in week 6 and week 9 showed a strong, healthy heart beat and baby, I began to relax. My husband I went to our 12 week scan excited and ready to tell more people.
I’m currently under expectant management of my second pregnancy. Five weeks ago, my seven and a half week fetus was declared demised when they found the heartbeat has stopped.
Our loss happened two weeks before our wedding day. It was the day we had arrived at the hospital we had chosen to have our baby at, to meet our OB for the very first time. Leading up to this appointment, I was absolutely thrilled to be pregnant. My partner and I had been trying for some time and finding out we were pregnant (finally!), was a moment that is hard to forget.
After being blessed with two healthy and risk free pregnancies, labours and deliveries, and being a mum to two healthy, strong spirited, kind hearted little girls…loss during pregnancy was not something that my partner and I had even really thought about going into our third pregnancy.
I don’t think I am ever going to be able to find the exact words I want to entirely explain how miscarriage and baby loss makes you feel. It’s unique. Only those who suffer miscarriage and baby loss can truly understand the boundless heartache and emptiness it brings, along with the silence that surrounds it.
It’s hard to know what to do in these situations. It’s both mentally and physically draining, but on the outside it’s as if nothing has happened. I wanted to open up about this and share what we went through.
My story begins when I lost one of my ovaries to endometriosis. My doctor didn’t want me to ovulate till I wanted to have kids, and that happened a year after my wedding. We went through two IVF cycles and finally got a successful implantation.